1. Dear Concerned Mother,

   1) Teens drinking for religious reasons is 100% legal.
   2) If you are afraid of your child drinking out of control, have a talk with him. If you feel that it won’t help, perhaps you and your son are at the stage that it is just time for you to “leave go and see if he can fly”. As you know you won’t be able to control him his entire life.
   3) Is it our responsibility to take care of every mother’s concern? Should we also all direct traffic? Should we serve all the bochrim a gourmet meal when they enter our home? Do you want us to offer them a ride to wherever they might want to go? How else would you like us to take care of your teenager?

   • And who is responsible if anything goes wrong chas vishalom? The person who served a minor alcohol.

   • I agree 100% I don’t allow my son to go to other people’s houses on Purim. I know there is alcohol there and I don’t want my son drinking. He stays home and I monitor the alcohol. I do allow unlimited light grape juice as he is 24 and should be able to handle it.

2. The fact is,that on Purim most people have alcohol on their tables. It is your job to he mechanech your son , not the stranger who your son is entering his house somewhat uninvited .If you dont trust your son not to drink , then dont let him go to strangers houses. And don’t ask strangers to be responsible for your son’s behavior .

3. Agreed

4. I think that the above comments here are not mothers of bachurim!!
   If they were they would at least empathize with the mother that wrote this letter!
   Yes, bachurim that drink too much on Purim is a major issue and bachurim after a few drinks can’t possibly keep track of how much they had all evening!
   Is it so hard to keep bottles away? It seems like a pretty simple solution! Have a lechayim and put the bottles away afterwards!
   Happy and safe Purim to all!

5. Its true that We can’t control what goes on in other homes but we can ask that you don’t OFFER underage boys alcoholic drinks.

   A mother of a high school boy and letting him fly for the first time

6. Btw the mitzvah is to drink wine ad deloi yodah and not Stan alcohol to get drunk. You need a very large amount of wine to actually get drunk. Drinking alcohol is no mitzvah

7. Most people do not offer especially to younger bochrim . It’s just on the table . It’s the parents job to either educate their son not to take it or just tell him not to go .

8. a good idea is for parents to be in touch with the one person in the group who is usually sober. he can keep u updated on your sons where abouts and condition. if he doesn’t have a phone maybe even lend him one for purim. I have seen teenagers act very responsible in taking care of their drunk friends and getting them home safe and cutting off their alcohol when they have had enough.

9. R Moshe Feinstein zl among many poskim hold that you could be mekayim ad delo Yada with alcoholic beverages aside for wine

10. Comment number 1 cannot possibly be from a parent of a teenager or older. It reaks from immaturity and stupidity.

    Parents can teach and talk to their children all they want. Even good kids from good homes with good parents who have good conversations can fall in this area.The issur of Lifnei Iver is on the person who puts out the stumbling block. It is not on the person who stumbles.

    Offering or even putting out alcohol on Purim and allowing someone elses child to drink with the attitude that it is not my problem is inexcusable.

11. Need to be extremely drunk to be ad dlo yoda. If you give a bachur to drink and something happens, it’s your responsibility. I tell my kid not to drink and I hope he listens. He can drink a glass of wine or two at home and rely on the kula of going to sleep.

12. I have adults coming through my house,all day. I see no need to hide the alcohol from my adult friends who drink responsibly. If your son is not responsible and can not control himself then he should not be coming into my house . If somebody knocks on my door I let him in and assume he is responsible and does not drink if he is too young . I can not be his policeman .

13. Let them drink nothing going to heppen

    • your spelling is almost as bad as your parenting

14. How about the Yeshivas stop sending them out to collect? If the Yeshiva would have a get together with the Rabayim and Rosh Hayeshivas it would be wonderful.

15. wow u ppl sound like ur from the ’40’s . dont tell ppl not to serve alcohol thats like trying to solve the shidduch crisis i was once a bachur and everyone knows that when a bachur wants s/t he’ll get it somehow and hiding it wont help… maybe keep him indoors a whole purim cuz he might drink.. if ur really nervous give him a certain amount of alcohol and tell him dont drink any more than that…its like telling ppl not to pick up hitchers bec. u dont want ur son to hitch…e/o stop trying to fix the world and understand its purim and dont start worrying about other ppl being oiver on lifnei iver i mean after all purim is called purim bec…
    you”purim some wine”
    and attention all ppl with fireworks plz do it in ur own playroom bec. i dont want my son getting chas vishaloim any bad ideas.
    and if ppl could plz not bang by haman bec. it hurts my ears.
    and y does e/o have music on purim…e/o should just go to sleep.
    and i think noone should have partys at night bec. then my son doesnt get 8 and a half hours of sleep like he usually does..
    im assuming that whoever is putting in these dumb comments r either parents that their son just got to the age of collecting or its a bunch of old ppl that r still paranoid from the holocaust or its just a joke!!!!!!!!!
    have a great purim to all ppl that r living in the 21st century!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    drink well…adiloi yadah bein old paranoid ppl l’ normal understanding ppl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • WOW. You actually wrote “people that are still paranoid from the holocaust”. May Hashem please send a Holocaust survivor to you to talk about what he / she went through and hopefully you will never ever ever ever compare or reference the Holocaust again. How low can you be.

16. I made it my minhag, for many years, in my home, not to serve any alcohol Purim night as it is impossible to control the teenagers and kids, who come in groups expecting to have fun. I do not want to cause any harm to these young children, as they can easily injure themselves, by drinking too much. I also don’t want to have the risk of getting sued because someone who served alcohol to underage children is liable.
    Freilechen Purim

17. @purim some wine
    maskim 1000000%

18. I let my son drink but not to much. if u say no wine they will do it behind your back

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