I’d like to express some thoughts about your plight – or better – our plight. I’m not writing on behalf of many people, but I’m sure these ideas are shared by many many members of our nation. (Therefore, I’ll write “we” as I continue.)
Firstly, we want you to know is that all of Klal Yisroel are with you in this nisayon. It’s very possible that some of us can be doing more on your behalf, but you must know that many of us are doing all we can to try to help bring you to the simcha that you so rightfully deserve. We daven constantly for your hatzlocha/that Hashem gives you strength, clarify of emuna, and encouragement to forge on. We cry and beg Hashem to bring the yeshua for each one of you. Please know that Klal Yisroel feel your pain and struggle and are trying to be noseh b’ol with you.
Secondly, we want you to understand that this nisayon is part of the acharis h’yomim, the chevlay mashiach. Your pain and struggle in emuna are part of what will usher in the y’mos hamoshiach. Hashem has chosen you specifically to be tested because He knows that you can rise to the challenge and grow closer to Him, becoming greater people. Each one of you will end up being a head taller than those around you. Please be strong in your emunah and your determination to grow. Continue to turn to Him and daven with all your hearts until Hashem will bring each of you the zivug that is yours min hashamayim.
Let’s all daven for the coming of mashiach, when Hashem will reveal His malchus. Then we will see how all the nisyonos and all the pain that you are suffering has filled up the cup to bring the geula. On that day, you’ll be our heroes who stood steadfast in emuna b’Hashem and we’ll all be zoche to experience together ‘V’haya bayom hahoo, y’hyeh Hashem echod ooshmo echod”.
May we all be zoche to a shana tova u’mesuka, a shnas geula and yeshua for each one of us and for all of us together as the am Hashem.
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I daven many times a day for at least 9 older singles that need shidduchim badly and have been dating for many years.
Time for all of us to start being “nosei b’ol….”
May everyone find their zivug very soon at the right time tha5 Hashem says is the correct time. And May all of you still dating have bitachon and emuna and go/daven straight to Hashem for help.
As an older single I just want to make it clear that we don’t have cancer, we are even able to accomplish a lot of things we never could have had we gotten married at 21. Pity is very patronizing, but I’m sure you mean well.
As a parent of older singles, I agree with @exasperated 100%. Ur trying to Express ur pity ?! Thanx,but no thanx.
No, he is not trying to express pity. It’s pretty clear he means to give Chizuk to those going through a difficult time. Please read more carefully before you make an unrefined comment.
Also, you need to understand this on a deeper level: If people say something about the plight of singles, many people who are sensitive to the topic will feel insulted and pitied. They want to feel like everyone else. They don’t want attention, and don’t want to feel pitied. On the other hand, if no one says anything, many people will feel the community is ignoring their plight. In short, those who care about others find themselves in a very delicate situation with respect to what they should or should not say. Obviously a lot of judgement and common sense needs to be used, and every situation is different. The point is, is that if someone does say something, and you feel it was the wrong approach, you need to let it slide. They are most definitely usually not ill intentioned, and have may have a different vantage point than you do.