Q: Can a woman wear a custom made sheitel?
A: Let me explain something about this subject of sheitelech. I don’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings; I want to make everybody happy and wearing a sheitel is certainly a good thing. But you should know that some sheitelim look too natural.
And therefore long-haired sheitelim I think should be avoided. I won’t tell you exactly what to do, but you must know there is a responsibility on women to be able to come before the bais din shel maaleh when the time is up and she should be able to say, “I wasn’t the cause of anybody who was looking at me too much.”
A woman should never be in a position where she is liable to be blamed for causing men to look at her. It’s not her fault that she is a woman, but she has to be careful not to misuse that privilege. Her husband is the one who has to look at her; others should not look.
And therefore if you are too careful with your appearance, it’s looking for trouble. I don’t say you shouldn’t look good, but to make it your business to look attractive that’s not right.
At home many people are slovenly, they’re sloppy. The husband sees a sloppy wife at home but on the street she dresses to kill! It should be the opposite. At home you should dress up and make the best impression on your husband; on the street just be plain.
Wow, something to think about. This is from 1998! How long and attractive were shaitels back then?? Thank you for the inspiration!
Wow, the wisdom, and the simplicity.
Very well said.
@ Yiddishe Momma – What ??
You think long shaitels are a new thing ??
They’re around for decades.
You must be a very new yiddeshe Mamma.
You could compare the shaitels from 1998 to the ones from today? Ummm no…
I am sure that Rabbi Miller is turning over in his grave on today’s lace front lace top shaitels!
Every generation is judged by the yetzer Hora of their time. For men it’s very hard to keep shmiras einayim the availability of non kosher media can be accessed by the touch of your finger and even people with kosher phones and filters occasionally see inappropriate content unless they choose to live without technology. Not to mention what people see on the street. Rabbi Miller doesn’t need my hascomo but what I understand he is saying that every person has to make his own cheshbon how to live his life and everyone has to have a rov to pasken for them and that one day they will have to give a din vcheshbon. But it’s not our place to judge others because from that we get sinas Chinum. At the times of Achav the Yiddin were serving idols and it doesn’t get much worse than that, yet they were successful in battle because of their achdus.
Let us all put aside judging others and focus on bettering ourselves and loving our fellow jew.
EB