One issue faced with many couples, even if they are in a contented relationship, is when they begin taking each other for granted. When people start dating, the physical side of things can be intense, driven by the excitement of meeting someone new. But the longer things last, the more the threat of complacency. Here are some suggestions to ensure that never happens to you!
Go out of the frame
Think about what would hamper the success of a partnership. Getting into a routine. Focusing on work. Not giving your partner enough attention. Now consider the opposite of those negative traits. Inject your leisure time with enthusiasm. Perhaps you’re currently single, and your love life seems to have taken a slump because you’ve got into a rut of hanging around the same old singles bars. Go online and check out recommendations about the best adult dating sites. Once you take the plunge and join an online dating service, you’ll start encountering all sorts of potentially compatible individuals seeking romance. The online dating scene is thriving currently, so it can become a perfect opportunity to bring something absolutely different to your life.
Ask questions to help break the ice
No matter what stage of a relationship you’re at, whether you’re still looking, have just contacted someone, or have already made a meaningful connection, communication is key. This is especially important when you’re getting to know a prospective partner. The questions you ask them will go a long way towards success or failure. When you’re chatting someone up, don’t ask something where the answer can only be yes or no. These are what is known as closed questions, and for good reason. They don’t compel the other person to open up about themselves. Instead, choose icebreakers guaranteed to get the dialogue flowing. Think of what you are likely to have in common. So introduce things like, “do you have a favorite Netflix show right now?” Or “I discovered a fabulous seafood restaurant at the weekend, and I’m dying to bring along a guest next time.” These are open questions that will kick-start a sparkling conversation.
Develop your flirting technique
Flirting is everything when it comes to interacting with someone you are attracted to. No pressure there then! But don’t get too hung up about being good at this. Once you’ve mastered a few basic techniques, it is something that should come naturally. Forget about thinking of witty lines, as they can often come across as cheesy. Instead, a good starting point is to focus on non-verbal contact (which makes up for over 90% of communication, including flirting!) This means looking the person squarely in the eye rather than nervous glances to your feet. Smile a lot, and nod to indicate you are taking in whatever they are telling you. When you do converse, give them compliments. A lot of compliments. Whatever you notice – hairstyle, dress sense, jewelry, makeup, eyes, accent – demonstrate you’ve been paying attention by telling them how impressed you are.
Explore your bodies together
Every couple will reach the stage where they are ready to get physical. The excitement and anticipation of this moment are no different when you’re with someone you’ve only just met or if you’ve been an item for a while. Making love is something that will accentuate the feelings you have for each other. If you have been in someone’s company for several hours, flirting, exchanging knowing looks, making lots of inuendos, there will already be a lot of sexual tension. When the time comes, you can let the heat achieve a boiling point! So don’t hold back. Well, you can for a period, as teasing can be an effective method of stoking the fire. But once you do get down to it, be open to new experiences, let your partner dictate the actions, then take over. Suggest trying out unusual positions. Talk dirty. Whisper about the kinky activities you would like to indulge in. Just don’t be shy.
Set your sexual priorities
It can be overemphasized how vital a healthy sex life is to a relationship. Again, communication is all-important. Discuss what turns you on. Prioritize making the most of your time in the sack together (or wherever else you happen to be – outdoors sex or sneaking into a restroom for a quickie can be fabulous!)
Following these tips should point you towards rekindling the flames of passion. Feel free to think of others – get creative! It’s sometimes worth thinking about exciting conversation topics that will maintain your interest in different topics. Keep your finger on the pulse of global news bulletins. Subjects as diverse as how females fare with compulsory military service in the Middle East or how climate change is impacting economies might not be the first conversation starters spring to mind. But keeping your minds stimulated will help to strengthen the bond between you.