Letter: Mid-Winter For Boys

As a mother of boys, I don’t understand the mid winter vacation schedule. Why do the boys get off a Friday and Sunday and not a Thursday or Monday as well like the girls schools do?

The boys are super jealous of the girls as it is, for the fact that they have yeshiva every Sunday while the girls are off.

In the summer, the boys have off for approximately 2 weeks between yeshiva and camp and then again between camp and yeshiva. Why can’t a day from that vacation be shaved off and given to the boys in the winter? It will give both the boys and their rebbeim a decent break in a long cold winter to clear their heads and let them come back refreshed with that extra Monday or Thursday.

And for those against it, saying there is then pressure to go away, It’s not the end of the world if these boys get to take a family vacation. It will give them warm family memories they will remember forever. No, it doesn’t need to be a trip to Florida, just a break and change of schedule is perfect.

A Lakewood mother.

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There are 10 Comments to "Letter: Mid-Winter For Boys"

  • Sam says:

    No one is stopping you from giving your boys off Thursday and Monday. If it’s important to you to have a family vacation then pull them out just as you would if you had a simcha etc.
    My parents did this every year when I was a kid as well as many in my school. Those days were known to be at half attendance

  • A mommy says:


  • bd says:

    My boys dont get off and they are proud to be holding up the world while everyone is partying. I will give them a random day off to relax and regroup. Much Nachas!

  • Mom of a bunch of boys says:

    Be happy your boys have anything off. My boys don’t have even Sunday, and they are not happy.

  • Hashem Yishmore says:

    Oy! We need Mashiach badly. We have totally lost our Torah’dik vision. Oy, Oy, Oy. We are so spoiled and so “far-Goyished!” if we can think ths way. Oy, oy, oy. How far have we strayed off the path of true Yiddishkeit. Oy, oy, oy. You think when Mashiach comes there will be vacations and more vacations, breaks and outlets and chilling etc. etc. Oy, oy, oy. Hashem, your holy children Klal Yisroel need Mashiach so so badly, more than they themselves realize! We need our authentic Yiddishkeit back! We need to put Hashem back in our lives, front and center.

  • Yankel says:

    I’m surprised you can have a discussion on vacation without mentioning that the rules of boys learning is clearly delineated in shulchan aruch while there might be some room for leniency for various reasons this issue is firmly anchored in halacha.
    Shockingly while every well-grounded parent realizes how detrimental 2 weeks of unsupervised unstructured vacation can be for a boy it is now used as a basis for even more vacation.
    And lastly is child being jealous a reason to give a child whatever he chooses? Or maybe just super jealous? How about making this a teaching moment that he won’t ever receive everything he chooses and they will always be people who have what he doesn’t have. Unless you think that you will always be able to provide him whatever he wants you’re setting yourself up for some very weighty problems.

  • Bubby says:

    when my children were going to school, there was no such thing as mid winter vacation. When did this phenomena start and why? Everyone is running off to Florida, Arizona and elsewhere, spending thousands of dollars, many families doing it because all the other kids in the class are going somewhere.

  • Outsider looking in. says:

    People, in general, need to learn to stay in their own lane in life and not worry so much about where everyone else is going and what they’re spending. Dachelak already. Have a wonderful Shabbat.

  • Steve says:

    The question should be posed the other way.
    Why do girl schools feel the need to have a longer vacation?
    In fact why is there any vacation a month after Chanuka?
    Not all parents can even take off, does anyone think about them?